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  • Dear Michael: Ready to date again?

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  • Dear Michael,
    My friend has been a widow for over a year. She seems so lonely, and I’d really like to see her be happy again. How soon can she start dating? She is in her late 60s, but still very active and beautiful. How young is too young for a new beau? I want to start talking to her about it, but I figured I would ask you about it first.
    Sincerely,
    Second Time Around
    Dear Miss Second Time,
    I think that since it has been a year it would be acceptable for her to start dating again. That is, if she’s ready to start dating. She may not feel ready yet, so tread lightly when you do talk to her about it. Let’s assume that she is ready to start dating so that we can address your other question. Have you ever heard of a cougar, girlfriend? A cougar is an older woman who dates younger men. As long as they are of age, they are fair game. She can certainly date someone her own age, but why should she limit herself? Boys in their 20s and 30s can be a lot of fun. She may just want to have some fun and not look for a partner right away. Either way, age is nothing but a number for adults. She should have fun and settle down when and if the time is right for her.
    Love,
    Your Diva Michael
    Dear Michael,
    My brother is in his late 30s. He claims to be bisexual, but I’ve only ever seen him date men. He is openly bisexual to his friends and family, so there is nothing secretive about what he’s doing. Since he only ever brings home men, my siblings and I have just assumed that he’s gay. He always corrects us when we say that, though. When are you done experimenting?
    Sincerely,
    Confused Brother
    Dear Mr. Confused,
    Your name is fitting. Human sexuality is fluid, and if your brother says that he’s bisexual, then you should respect that. Just because he brings home men doesn’t mean that he has never had a female partner. He may be “experimenting” as you say, or he may know full well that he is bisexual. Either way, he knows better than you and your siblings do, so you should follow his lead. It’s not your job to define him, that’s his job.
    Love,
    Your Diva Michael
    Dear Michael,
    Regarding your recent article about black and brown not going together, my former hairdresser (I moved; I still like him) was discussing the same topic. His niece wanted to have brown bridesmaid dresses and he told her the dresses would not go with the black tuxes. I told him I thought the colors did go together, just ask my Rottweiler!
    Page 2 of 2 - Sincerely,
    Color Combinations
    Dear Miss Color Combos,
    Different strokes for different folks, girlfriend! My opinion on the matter remains unchanged, but your opinion is definitely more fashionable than mine right now. I tend to agree with your hair stylist about the brown dresses with black tuxes, but fashion is an art, not a science. If it makes you feel your best, then you should throw caution to the wind and wear what you want. There is always room for debate in fashion, and that’s what makes it so much fun.
    Love,
    Your Diva Michael
    Michael Serode is the owner/operator of Salon Serode in Pembroke, Mass., and your divine advice columnist. Send questions to salonserode@gmail.com.

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